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~if you read the whole thing you'll know why i put this up here recently me and my ex have broken up. i just want every1 to know that i still have feelings for her, but i can't get over them no matter how much i try. she can run away with her ex. sometimes i want her back, sometimes i want her to rot in hell for what she did. ever since i've been in the bottom of a bottle and downing 2 packs a day atleast for about a week. i havn't talked to her, her new bf, her friends or any1 for a while. i've just been laying in my bed and not even answering the phone, but checking the caller-ID for no apparent reason. i got fired from work and quit my band. apparently i've taken a turn for the worst. my friends have tried to help me, but it seems just to piss me off and choke me up everytime i hear her name mentioned or "his", marcus. i don't know how to get over it, so if any1 has any advice, put it in this post. i'd really appreciate it.

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jun 17, 2003 02:15PM

How to get over it? Go out and get a new girlfriend, dude. Live moves on, and so must you. There are a lot of people out there to meet. Just exactly what went down with the girl anyway? What is the full story? Why did she leave you?

posted by Cody Phipps on Jun 17, 2003 04:20PM

I think Codys half right man. You gotta move on. Ive been in yer shoes before, and it rips at yer heart man I know. But truth be told....if given, time will heal all wounds. I also happen to believe that if something is meant to be between two people it will be. If it isn't...then youre probably gonna find yourself better off in the end. My thoughts....re join the band, or a band, hang out with all your close buddies, get drunk with them instead of alone, and laugh the night away. The hearts gonna hurt for a while man, I wont lie to ya....but like I said give it the time, and try to put yourself in places where you'll smile instead of sulking in a dark room closed off from society...Get out and live life man. Its all about laughing and being with your friends. Its just like that quote im sure everyones heard. "Dont take life too seriously, 'cause you sure as hell aint gettin' out alive..." Move on man.

posted by StU aRt on Jun 18, 2003 02:52PM

hey thx man. oh, you wanted the whole story? this will take a lil while. ok~ First, about a couple years ago, my friend introduced me to this girl named amanda, nk, everything's goin fine for a while, we get to know eachotherr, n start goin out. everythings fine. then all of a sudden, out of nowhere she starts sayen "i fucked your friend aaron. he ate me out n i gave hime head." pissed me off when she said that. aaron, bein my bro n all, told me it was a lie. i'd rather believe him than her, you know? so ok, we break up, months go by, i get emails from her sayen that she misses me n shit. ok, yeah i kinda missed her too. while goes by, i kinda slip away, somethin happens to me one day, i get a reality flash like "oh, ok. think about my life, what the fucks goin on?" you know? shit like that. so you know i start talken to her again, we start fallen for eachother again, turns out she's gotta bf. you know, i'm pouring my heart out n shit tryen to get her back. ok, finally they break up, i go back out with her. about a week goes by n i find out that they've also gone out b4. ok, w/e. so she's gone out with us twice. about a week ago, i get an email from her ex marcus sayen that they wanna get back together n shit cause they miss eachother. (first thing i wanna read when i get up in the morning is an email from my girl that i love [still do kinda]'s ex sayen they wanna get back together). so the entire day i'm tryen to get ahold of her, callen her, callen her, callen her, emailing her, emailing HIM (marcus), emailing both of them, so finally i go over there, still not home. later that evening i get an email from her saying "yeah, sry about this. yeah you shouldn't have gone out for me cause of how i am, n i wanna go back out with marcus, and i'm sorry, but that's just how i feel" (the way she is~ aaron told me that she once said "just because i tell some1 i love them doesn't mean i really do. there's jes so many guys out there". so yeah. then me n aaron go off on them both, i get a reply back from amanda sayen "Mike!~ this immaturity overrides any feelings i may have felt for you! there is no chance of us going back out again ever!" blah blah blah, jes basicly putten me down more n more on every line i read. so now i'm at where i am now. starten to get over it, but hell, like, you know, what is there to do now? sit n drink n get blowed. that's about it. my friend cory don't want me to, cause he knows i'll try something stupid like killing myself, that's why he kinda took my knives n guns away, lol. that's basicly a summary of the entire story right there. hey, it's what you wanted, lol. thx for the advice man.

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jun 18, 2003 08:32PM

Yeah dude....deffinately, the girl aint worth it. You may have been on the immature side blowing your cap and havin you and your buddy writing e-mails to the two of them expressing your negative feelings, but on the flip side it sounds to me like this girl is either unsure of what she really wants (hence immature in a sense herself) or shes just kinda slutty. No offence if you take any, this is just an outside opinion based on the facts you have presented. One way or the other it doesn't sound like this girl is going to be changing in a direction you would like any time soon. So my suggestion(s) still stand(s). Move on man, find another girl that really is worth your time. However alot of "rebound" relationships dont always tend to work out so good, so maybe you gotta bite the bullet and be single for a while. Live it up with yer buds, look at the scenery, and perhaps take a note from Snoop Dog...sometimes, "bitches aint shit, but hoes and tricks."

posted by StU aRt on Jun 19, 2003 12:48PM

yeah. that's what everyones been saying. that she's not sure of what she wants. my friend is sure that its gonna be like a month relation ship with them and its gonna be the saaaaaaaame old story between marcus n amanda. so yeah, im jes gonna sit back n watch what happens. she aint sure of what she wants, or so says every1. and i'm sure that's what it is too. so yeah, i'm jes gonna sit back n watch it fall apart like it did the last time. or, i can jes tell marcus some shit that she told me, or what aaron told me. knowing those facts, foresure he'd dump her. but i'll just watch it crumble instead.

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jun 19, 2003 02:00PM

and no, i don't take any offense. personally, like one of my lyrics say "wanna hold you, wanna hurt you. wanna love you, wanna kill you" i don't know if i should agree with you "she seems kinda slutty", or not. it's like, i wanna be with her, but i wanna kill her. you know?

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jun 19, 2003 04:54PM

yeah i'm pretty sure i'm over the whole issue. i learned that the less i talk to her or about her, the less depressed i am now. so yeah, it was real hard to do, i jes told her that i can't even be friends with her anymore cause it hurts to much to even talk to her, let alone even look at her. so yeah, i'm not talken to amanda or the faggot marcus anymore. i'm acting like my friend never even introduced me to her. (it's the only way to get over her, but i had to do it. it was either that or the slit wrists ruitene. [...rutine, ruitine, roo-teen... somethen like that]). although i always do have moments that i feel like talken to her, but i jes go and do somethen else to get her outta my head. but you guys~ i wonder if i did the right thing to break off the friendship n the whole thing to try n get over her? (basicly my question: did i do the right thing?)

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 17, 2003 04:05PM

i dunno, i don't think i did the right thing wit diz shiznit. i even think i'm still over her yet. i mean, i still feel like i need her or want her, n i wanna talk to her, but i know that if i do, i'll jes get sucked back in the trap again. i don't wanna do that, but i feel like i GOTTA talk to her. i dunno, maybe i jes need a lil more time. my question still remains; did i do the right thing?

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 17, 2003 09:16PM

awww fukk dat hoe dz! remembr dawg, there mo bitches out there then jus amanda. amanda is a fukkn hoe man, move the fukk on! god damn, i coulda told u dat frum the beginning, how bout we egg her daddios house? maybe thatll help!

posted by Corey Thompson/Parlemos on Jul 18, 2003 03:58PM

um, i don't that would help, lol. and besides, in about a week, he'll be my new employer! lol. i'ma be worken for him out in construction, lmao. and cory, what the hell would you know, lol. dude, you were scared you got britt pegnant and so you were gonna dump her. dude you're a pig, lol.

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 18, 2003 04:04PM

and besides, the boi's from phlux gave me some good advice, knowen you, you woulda said somethen like "man fuck you too! both y'all hoes!" or somethen. heh.

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 18, 2003 04:06PM

and my question still stands: did i do the right thing to break off the friendship with amanda?

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 22, 2003 09:04PM

update: i don't think i can stay away from her. i might be going back out with her again. =). i jes dunno if it's the right thing to do. i'm certain it is. i know people have told me to follow my heart and gut instinct on these things, but even still... basicly what i'm saying is: NEW QUESTION: am i doing the right thing?

posted by Cean Lakranski on Jul 27, 2003 03:25AM

awww isn't that just sweeeeet? no shit you're not doin the right thing. get the hell away from her, dude she just gunna put you in more n more heartbreak ova and over again. dude take MY advice, stay away from her. YO-DON'T-NEED-HER.

posted by Corey Thompson/Parlemos on Jul 30, 2003 01:27PM

newupdate: my ex amanda might be dumping her bf. she thinks that he spends too much time at church than with her. i told her to just dump him and i think she took me seriously, lol... i didn't wanna say i was just joking around cause it might actually be in the good for me =-D but you know, i don't wanna interfere or anything, so i think i'll just let them straighten this 1 out... but anyways, i wonder if i should go back out with her..... anybody have any suggestions?

posted by Cean Lakranski on Aug 20, 2003 05:13PM

Dude! Im a chick and i still think thats retarded. Any girl that ditches someone to be with another guy and then does it again to go back with the first one has some serious problems. She already did it once and got whatever she wanted, shes gonna do it again. Tell her to fuck herself and go find someone else. Theres so many more girls out there, have some fun for gods sake

posted by Stacey Leanne on Apr 29, 2004 09:36PM

Rock on....thats some damn good advice!

posted by StU aRt on Apr 30, 2004 10:19AM

LISTEN! I've had some experience with psycho women... Your girl is loopy! You need not waste any more time with her, she's just going to drag you around like a retarded puppy on a leash... Until she finds a guy with bigger parts and a bigger wallet. I know this isn't the most sensitive way to put this, but it's the truth. MOVE ON!

posted by Tim - on May 01, 2004 10:05AM

um... thx for the advice but uh, i kinda already did, lol. i gotta new girl now! but thanks anywayz dude

posted by Cean Lakranski on May 01, 2004 12:29PM

Ok, Nevermind the earlier advice...As you seem to be the psycho, my man. ;-)

posted by Tim - on May 01, 2004 09:23PM

lol i'm the psycho? ok then...

posted by Cean Lakranski on May 02, 2004 11:44AM

i just wanted to say that once a cheater always a cheater....and that if the realtionship doesnt work the first time most likely it wont work the 2nd..or the 3rd..etc.. it took me 7 times with this one dude to figure that out.....what everyone should do is drink and get laid....that way you will avoid all the cheating idiots because they will be too busy figuring out who to cheat on next....gee cant we feel the bitterness in this room....anyway good job dude for figuring out that shes a skank or whatever they call it now have a lovely day nekkid (naked)

posted by trisha tillery on May 04, 2004 08:08PM